How do you say goodbye to your Mother. How do you say goodbye to a daughter, partner, sister, granddaughter, a close relative or indeed a friend. Knowing that this is the final goodbye. We as a family pull together, we always have. Those of you that know us, know how close we are. We like to do things together, from the simple things like having meals together to the more complicated of arranging to go on holidays together, so you can imagine the shock of that fateful day on Thursday 24th October when we all in turn received that terrible phone call telling us that Marie had gone. So we became a family that grieved together, but as a famous person one said “Grief is the price we pay for love” To have one taken so young is always tragic but to have one taken away in the manner which took away our Marie is devastating. A young Mother in the prime of her life with everything to live for. We know that Marie didn’t always have an easy or trouble free life but over the last 6 months, since She, Martin, Georgia and Hollie moved into their new home at Glyn Dwr she was never happier. Always the home builder she and Martin got their home just as she wanted but never to enjoy. For those that remember, Marie was born with a Heart defect it seems to me to be somewhat ironic but entirely appropriate that her passing has caused so much heartache to those that loved her. We have cherished memories of Marie and we will always remember her and how she brightened our lives so when you share your memories of her with us please please don’t talk of her in the past because she will always be here with us And so I come back to my question, how do you say goodbye to your Mother. If you are a brave, caring and sensible 11 year old who feels a sense of responsibility for her 2 year old sister you write a letter, not with pen and paper but on your i-phone so at this time I would like to read our Georgia's letter to her mother. Dear mam, I just can't believe you are gone... It will never be the same without you, I can never stop thinking about you every second, every minute, every hour and every day in my head. What will we do without you? You are my mam!! (It's not true it can't be) we go clothes shopping together and especially primark we love primark, I know your favourite songs and movies! The memories we have the time we spend I realise more that your gone. We normally talk about the past and what we miss and know, I know what I was missing (I was missing spending time with you) we got some memories some good ones too! You are gorgeous and I love you so much and you will always be there. Me and Hollie are brave and know that you are safe and looking down at us every second, but right now it don't feel real at all, you are our angel and can't imagine life without you... These last couple of days have been terrifying I just don't get it now I just wish I could go back in time and spend the most time with you as I could. Rest in peace my lovely gorgeous wonderful mother we will never forget you. You have been remembered so much because everyone loved you. You were so nice, generous and pretty, everyone could never forget you that's how I am proud to call you my mammy everyone is upset and thinking how everything has turned out you are a brilliant mother and nothing will change that ! Because of the caring and tender daughter, sister, partner, mother, and granddaughter that she was, Marie Tovey will be sorely missed. But far greater than the sorrow from her death is the joy that she spread throughout her short life. To the world she was one person, but to us she was the world.